You Are Not Doomed To Be Fat Forever.
I know, you're probably thinking you have to diet to lose weight. But nothing could be further from the truth. With rare exceptions, most people were born into normal weight bodies. But then we learned to diet.
Dieting causes the body to go into survival mode. Dieting itself sparks the intense biological urge to consume large quantities of high calorie foods. It causes the body's instinctual drives to override all intellectual controls. It primes the body to maximize food intake and minimize energy burned.
Diets have set us up to fight against our own physical survival, the body's most basic instinct.
As a comparison, think of how difficult life would be if you had to go to the bathroom on a rigid schedule. What if you only allowed yourself to urinate 3 times a day?
At 8 a.m., noon, and 6 p.m. you could release exactly 5 ounces. You'd measure it - of course - to be sure it was the right amount. If you needed to go more, you would force yourself to wait until the next scheduled time. And too bad if you needed to go at 10 am, hold it until noon.
You would be miserable. Your body would have a very difficult time complying with an arbitrary schedule. It would probably get ugly.
Overeating because your body refuses to starve doesn't make you a failure. It means you're human.
It doesn't make you diseased.
It doesn't mean you are flawed forever.
It doesn't doom you to being permanently sick and trying to recover for the rest of your life.
It means you did the best you could at the time.
It means you can forgive yourself and move on.
Eating is the most natural thing we do and your body knows exactly what it needs to live at it's very best. All you have to do is practice listening and ACT on the information. Your body knows what to do. Just as it knows how to breathe, reproduce, and heal.
Think of how children live, we can learn a lot from them.
They rest when they are tired.
They run, jump, swim, dance, and play as much as they can because it feels good and it's fun.
They are picky about what they eat. They'll go hungry rather than settle for something they don't love.
They eat when they're hungry.
Once they feel full, they have to be tricked or bribed into eating even one more bite of food.
They drink when they're thirsty.
They love their bodies and they don't care how their thighs look or if their tummy isn't flat and tight.
They don't have to think about all this. It just comes naturally and easily as a part of being human.
All of these natural instincts live in each of us, too.
We all have the inborn ability to take care of ourselves. We just have to remember. We just have to get back in the habit of listening to our bodies of following their wisdom. Remember, a normal body weight is your birthright. It was stolen from you. Now you get to take it back.
So stop thinking of yourself as forever fat. You are not doomed to either being overweight or to being on a perpetual diet. Let overeating and overweight fade into the past. They served you well to keep you alive. Once you stop dieting and accept the body you were born with, you can return to your unique, normal weight.
I'm not suggesting everyone is going to be model-skinny. The endless, tyrannical pressure to be very thin is a big part of the problem. Some bodies are meant to be soft and curvy. Others are naturally sharp and angular. We are variously stocky, tall, fleshy, muscular, sinewy, short, etc. There is wonderful beauty in diversity.
Accepting and loving the unique beauty of your body will heal you and set you free. Be like a child and delight in the body you have. Cherish the power in your muscles. Enjoy the feeling of being alive here on this planet. Let go of having to look a certain way. Be yourself. Let someone else try to be like the models or celebrities. The world will be a better place if it gets to have the real, unique, special person that YOU are.
Believe in your own healing. Believe that you can live easily and naturally at your own ideal weight. That faith is a huge part of what will set you free. Eating normally is completely natural. Deep down you know how to do it.