Anger Management Games And Activities For Kids


What Is Anger Management?


Anger management is a learning process that teaches kids how to channel their anger healthily and safely. It teaches kids to identify signs of anger and find ways to calm down and productively take action. Please note that anger management is not denying how you feel. It is not about holding or repressing your anger.


Anger is normal and should be expressed. Pent-up anger can be explosive, making the person aggressive and violent. Anger management helps prevent explosive bouts of anger that could hurt your child and others around him or her.


Anger management skills are as essential as any other life skills that your child needs to grow up into a sensible adult. So how can you help your child?


Sometimes when I am angry, I have the right to be angry. But that does not give me the right to be cruel.” – Anonymous.


Tips for Anger Management In Kids


Anger management is not easy. And that is exactly why your child should learn it early on. Here are a few tips on how you can help your child manage their anger better.


1. Take a time-out


Timeouts always help when you are angry. When your child is angry and is in a fit of rage, don’t react or reprimand. That will only fuel the anger. Instead of arguing and indulging the child in a heated conversation, give him or her a timeout. If the child is ranting angrily, let them finish, and then send them to their room, as coolly as you can.


But if your child is aggressive and being violent, stop them immediately, make them sit quietly for a minute or two, until they cool down.


Teaching them breathing exercises and yoga can help them calm down before their anger takes over.A walk outdoors and spending time alone can help them gather their feelings and thoughts.Counting numbers from one to ten, while breathing in and out heavily, can also help the child cool down.


2. The feeling vocabulary


Kids usually tend to shout, scream, punch, kick, and throw things when they are angry because they do not know how to express their anger verbally. A feeling vocabulary is a list of feeling words that the child can use to show their emotions. Teach them different emotion words that they can use to tell you how they feel.


Some words you could start with are: angry, happy, scared, furious, nervous, anxious, irritated, and annoyed.Once you do, encourage the child to use them in sentences such as “I am so angry right now!” or “I am mad at you” or “She is annoying me.”Talking is always a better way to express than kicking, punching, biting, throwing, and breaking things!


Let anger out of the body


Anger is triggered by the amygdala – the part of the brain that controls your fight or flight instinct . Once the emotion is triggered, adrenalin is pumped by the adrenalin glands and the testosterone levels in the body, heart rate, and arterial tension increase. When adrenaline levels increase, we feel more energetic and stronger and also tend to speak louder.


These changes in the body increase the risk of aggression and violence. To prevent that, it is important to redirect all that adrenaline for something more productive and less harmful.


Punching a boxing bag, shouting into a pillow, karate chopping paper, or just indulging in a physical activity such as running, swimming, or playing a sport are some of the most effective anger management activities for kids.




4. Empathize


Empathy can do wonders in managing angry kids. If your child is angry, encourage them to talk about it, but don’t cut them off. Acknowledge their feelings. Whether they are angry, frustrated, or just annoyed at something, recognize the feeling.


When you understand what your child is going through, you respond and not react. When you are empathetic, you allow the child to express their feelings without judging them. When you are open to listening, the child calms down.


5. Praise good behavior


The behavior of a child depends on your reaction to it. Children thrive on attention and tend to do things that get them their parents’ attention. So when your child displays good behavior, praise them and appreciate their efforts. But do not overdo it. Too much praise can be bad, for they will expect only appreciation and may have a tough time handling criticism.


While praising good behavior is important, pointing out the wrongful behavior in a subtle way and helping them correct it is equally important.


6. Set a good example


Does your child see a lot of angry conversations and rage-filled rants in the house? If the parents have a short temper and indulge in angry arguments and screaming matches often, the child won’t grow up to be a saint. If you want your child to express their anger safely and appropriately, you have to teach them that by demonstrating it.


Be a model parent and set a good example on how you can manage or control your anger. When you do, your children will imitate you and try to deal with their anger without aggression or violence.


7. Have anger rules


Rules are important for disciplining a child. One of the most important rules must be about their behavior when they are angry. Let your child know that it is okay to get angry. Anger is not a bad word. But getting aggressive or violent is not okay. Have simple rules such as:


No hitting, kicking, biting, pinching, or use of any physical violenceNo screaming – we talk calmly to solve problemsNo calling names or saying mean things


Add any more rules you think are necessary keeping in mind your child’s behavior. The most important part is to make sure you and your children adhere to these rules and deal with the consequences when they are broken. No two ways about it!


8. Find an alternative


If children should not scream, kick, or hit when they are angry, what should they do? Well, here are some alternatives that you can get your child to do to release his or her anger safely.


Use a punching bag to release your anger. Hitting a punching bag or a pillow is alright. Hitting people is not.Write what you are angry about on a piece of paper and tear it into as many pieces as you can.Breathe. Get the child to take deep breaths whenever they feel their anger welling up. Dragon breaths are better – breathe in through the nose and breathe out the anger from the mouth, just like a dragon breathes fire.Going to a calm place, away from what is causing the anger, can also help the child to calm down.Draw or paint your emotions. Using colors can be a great way to calm the mind and turn the anger into something creative.


Older kids should be told about the difference between feelings and behavior through anger management activities, which we will talk about next.


Anger Management Worksheets


You can download anger management worksheets for kids from the internet, or make some on your own. Ideally, it is best to create customized sheets for better results. Here are a few examples of the kind of worksheets you can make.


1. How Anger Feels Worksheet


This worksheet focuses on how the child feels physically and emotionally when he is angry. It also helps the child name and identify different sensations he feels in various parts of the body. The worksheet also encourages the child to talk about his behavior when he is angry and whether there is an alternative to it.


2. What Can I Do? Worksheet

Young children experience anger but do not know how to express it. So they cry, scream, throw things, and hit because that is what they know to do. This worksheet gives them more options of how to safely channel their anger.

3. Expressing Anger Worksheet

This worksheet teaches them how to express their feelings to a parent or a caregiver. The exercise focuses on the cause of anger, how the child feels when he is angry, and what he wants to be done differently to avoid being angry.


Worksheets may seem like school work at times and may not work well in teaching kids about managing anger. In that case, you can try these games to teach kids about anger and how they can express it.


Anger Management Games And Activities For Kids


Games and activities are fun, but they can also help your kids learn something. Here are a few games that you can play with the kids to teach them a thing or two about managing their temper

Don't get mad


This game teaches emotional intelligence skills, by enabling the kids to choose how to react to a situation that is likely to frustrate them or make them angry.


You will need:


List of possible situations that make the child angryPaperA tote bag


How to:

The game is best played with a group of five to eight people. Before beginning the game, write down different scenarios that could make the children angry. Here are a few examples.You feel really sick, but your mother makes you go to school. You feel like yelling at your mother. What do you think you should do instead?You want to ride your bike, but it had a flat tire. You feel like knocking the bike over in anger. What do you think you should do instead?Your mom made fish for dinner, but you hate fish. You feel like walking away from the table and go to your room. What do you think you should do instead?Your friend accidentally spills juice on your favorite shirt. You are upset and feel like spilling some juice on her/his shirt. What should you do instead?Gather the children and have them sit in a circle.The children take turns to pick a scenario from the bag.They have to read out the situation and come up with answers to the questions in the paper.Let the child answer and then start a discussion asking what the other kids think.


If the child hasn’t got it right, you can always tell them about better ways to handle a situation when it makes them angry.


2. The anger game

This is a simple multi-player game that can be played with a single dice.

You will need:

A single diceA task for each number on the dice

Before beginning the game, come up with a topic for each side of the dice. For example, every time you throw a


one, say one thing that makes you angrytwo, say one thing you can do to calm down when you feel angrythree, one way you can control your temper at schoolfour, one thing you did when you were angry and regret itfive, one time when it was difficult for you to control your tempersix, one time when you took a good decision when you were angryYou can change the ideas based on your requirement as well.


How to:

Get the kids to sit in a circle and throw the dice.The kids have to mention only one thing for each roll.No one else will judge or comment on the other players’ answers.

This game can be played in the classroom or at home with the family.


3. The angry balloon

This is more like an activity, than a game, that objectifies anger and focuses on expressing anger. It is based on the analogy that anger is like a balloon. Here is how you can turn this activity into a fun game. But before you do, here are a few things you should tell the kids.


The balloon is a person.The air you blow into the balloon is the words and feelings, like anger.

You can try this game with one child or a group of children.

How to:

Give each kid a balloon and ask them to blow air (anger) into it and hold it, without tying it with a string or knotting it.Now ask the kids, “What will happen when you add more words and feelings of anger to the balloon? Will it burst?” Wait for their answers before telling them about it.Explain how accumulating feelings can dangerous for us and how it is important to release or express your anger in a safe way. Then ask how they express their anger. Again, wait for their answer.Next, ask them to let go of the balloon at once and see how it flies and whizzes around the room, hitting everything that comes in its way.Then blow air into the balloons again and this time, release the air slowly, letting it out little by little by stretching the balloon’s mouth a little.


This exercise teaches kids what happens when they bottle up their anger, lash out the anger all at once, and release it slowly using words or art. Besides this one, you can try a few more activities too.


Next, we have activities that will help your child steer away from aggression through physical and mental stimulation.


1. Physical activities


Besides exercise, your child can also try these physical activities to release anger safely.



Dancing is a better form of exercise that your kids can indulge in when they angry. Just play some music on the player or find a fun dance video on YouTube that your child can see and dance to. Check the videos before you play them, to ensure there’s no explicit or inappropriate content for kids.Riding a bike or skating is fun and takes the child away from the person/situation that makes them angry. However, care should be taken to ensure that the child has all safety gear in place and does not ride rashly in anger.Jumping rope is another physical activity that can use up the adrenalin and calm the child down. It is better when played with more people.Playing an outdoor sport such as basketball or Frisbee can also help burn the energy that the adrenalin gives the child.Gardening can be soothing if the child loves nature. When the child is angry, ask the child to water the plants, pluck out the weeds, or plant some saplings. Or, he can simply go and sit in the garden and breathe to cope with the anger.Pets can be therapeutic. One way to beat anger is to play with a pet dog or cat if you have one. The child could simply play fetch with the dog, read a book to it (younger kids), or older children can also walk the pets.Sometimes, all you need is to let the angry thoughts out of your head. Sending the child to a calm place to gather their thoughts can be a good idea in that case.


2. Creative activities


Indulging the child in something creative like painting, story writing or sculpting can also be effective.Intense emotions such as anger can bring out the creative best in some people When the child gets angry, ask him or her to write a story, poem, or play. They could even write a song.Painting, drawing, and sketching also act as creative outlets for anger. Let the child paint his anger with his choice of colors. The pictures or images that children draw when they are unhappy, frustrated, and angry can also give us an insight into their temperament.Coloring printed images can also be a great way to calm down when children get angry.Another way to cope with anger is to make a collage – you could tell the child to collect pictures of people, things, and places that they like, and make a collage of them.You could get musical too – ask the child to sing out their anger, play an instrument, or just hum something until they feel calmer.You can also try making sock puppets and use them to express anger in a funny, but creative way.


Anger is not an easy emotion to master. The fact that most adults have to make an effort to keep their temper in check speaks for itself. So do not expect your children to learn anger management overnight. Be patient while they learn the skills and implement their anger management techniques. With some support and understanding from you, your children can improve their emotional intelligence and learn to master their feelings, without having to bottle them up or throw them at others.


Do you have any suggestions on how we can help children master their anger? Share them in our comments section.



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MRS. BUSHRA JAMAL D/O- MD. JAMALUDDIN EDUCATION--Graduation(English Hons). HIGH SCHOOL EDUCATION-- WITH SCIENCE This is Bushra Jamal,she was born in the district of Patna she has studied in English school, she has done intermediate in science and she has done her graduation (IGNOU) in English honors. She is from simple middle class family with younger brother and sister. She was married in 2016. Since 2017 she wrote English poems and short stories also. She is the mother of a child. In 2021, she published, her first book -6year girl abused,which is written in english. She worked as a co - author in many book. 1--अन्नदाता( किसान व उनकी परेशानी)in which she has written very good poetry is in hindi. 2-सपनों की सीरी- (तैयारी जीत की) In this book also he has given a very beautiful poem is in hindi 3-पिता-(एक आसमान)In this book, he has given a poem which is in English. 4)पिता- in this book she wrote a beautiful poem for her father. 5)शब्दों का जादू - she wrote a poem on gullak. She appears a lot of Shayari,Poem, Short Stories. She Writes in both languages ​​English and Hindi. They like to write, it has become their passion in writing. "Pen for me is like weapon, I can describe my emotions, which modify written